Sleeping over my Boyfriends house- asking Mum?

Question

I am 17 and have been going out with my boyfriend for just over a month now, and he lives quite far away. My Mum has never met him, but one of my sisters have and she approved. =D

Sometimes, it would make much more sense if I could just stay at his house for the night- I can drive, he can't, and, being 17 years old and students, it would be alot cheaper for me to just stay there some nights. His parents are fine with it, but I worry that it's too soon to ask my Mum if I can stay there for the night? As I said, she has never met him, but she wants to and he wants to meet her, but everyone is just so busy!

From somebody else's view, how long is a good time to wait before I ask my Mum if I can stay at his house?

Answer 1

Why don't you spend a little extra gas and have the first sleep over at your house. Your mom can meet him and she can see how you too behave together. She will probably like that idea far more then you staying way all night with a stranger to her.

Remember parents tend to be more protective of daughters then sons. So it will probably be harder for her to say yes then it was for his parents to say yes.

Answer 2

Sisters approval means nothing. She is not mom.

Before you even THINK about sleeping over at his house, and you being 17, you NEED for mom to meet and approve of him herself.

If everyone is as busy as you say.. then ask them to MAKE TIME.

Also, considering you've only been with this guy for just over a month, are you sure you SHOULD be sleeping over with him already? Sure, he's sweet, and the best thing to come along since french fries,. but he's also still new to you. And that newness won't last forever!

Wait until you've known him longer.. till you know him MUCH better than what you do now.. maybe 6 months or so, THEN you can decide if he's the kinda guy you need to be staying over with. Till then, definitely get him over to meet mom, see what SHE thinks. While I'm sure sis has the best intentions toward you,. neither her, or you have the experience mom probably has,.. the insight she has into boys and men.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

hahah, sleeping over a guys house. My parents would never let me do that. good luck

Answer 4

any time is a good time to ask, but regardless of whether you are sexually active or not, she will assume that that is what you are going for.  If you sit her down, (I'm not sure how liberal or conservative she is) and perhaps have his parents come meet her or something like that.  The more you let her know that it's not going to be two teens going at it, and acting like responsible adults the easier it might be.  I just re-read your thing, and if it's only been a month it's puppy love.  Why not just drive up there early in the morning and leave later in the afternoon / night?  I'd say wait 2-4 months before considering staying over there only so you don't get burned.

Answer 5

Ask her as soon as possible, to have time to plan. If she's not too into the idea, have your mom talk to his mother to assure her that its okay.