Should I let my daughter have a boyfriend?

Question

My daughter is four and likes this little boy that goes to her learing center and he likes her as well. Should I let her call him her boyfriend since they are only four and the only thing they can really do is just kiss. My mother thinks that this is a bad idea but I don't see the harm.

Answer 1

i wouldnt encourage them to kiss but its very healthy for toddlers to have a crush.. its part of growing up.. theres nothing wrong with it at all as long as your dont encourage any physical activity like kissing and i wouldnt  encourage hugging.. its okay to allow it but dont encourage it because its only human nature to move on to the next step and it will be sooner if you allow it. of course they wont be having s*x but they may kiss and then she will think its okay to kiss when shes 6 and 8 and 10 and before you know it you will have a 12 year old making out and having s*x. but yes.. at 4 its innocent.

Answer 2

I am not too sure that a 4 year old would know the term of "boyfrriend" as per being a sexual / boyfriend - girlfriend relationship. I would think that it's harmless... but I don't think that I'd be letting them kiss, and then calling them bf and gf. I don't know, maybe thats just me. My little one is not 4 yet, so I'm not really all that sure.

Maybe I would call him the "best friend" instead.

Answer 3

no because then she'll think in the future she can have boyfriends, and do whatever with them thinking you won't care.

&..she could just call the other boy a really good best friend or something.

Answer 4

I think you can call them boyfriend and girlfriend, but as far as kissing goes (as a dad) I would probably freak out.

I say it's your kid, your opinion.  The kids are still ignorant to what the term boyfriend and girlfriend really mean.

Answer 5

haha yeah i wouldn't let them..it might be cute now but it could lead to bad things later down the road

i think about 11-14 is a good age for girls to start having boyfriends

Answer 6

i think that that letting her call him her boyfriend is fine and if you mom doesn't agree than so what. anyway just up your self in your daughters position if your mom said yes and had let you have a "boyfriend" then you would feel mature like you are trusted i hope this helped you with your problem!

Answer 7

nothing wrong with it. it will help her develop better people skills and sensitivity. it's really cute. i'm a counselor at a 2-6 year old camp, and the cutest, most socialized, sweetest little girl has a 'boyfriend.'

Answer 8

of course its all totally innocent there 4, theres no problem with it, there more than likely just good friends i doubt they know what boyfriend and girlfriend really means

Answer 9

A 4 year old can not understand all of the things a relationship stands for and at her age telling her no, you can't have a boyfriend could give her the wrong idea about the whole subject. There is no harm in allowing her to call him her boyfriend under certain guildlines of course, just watch them and be a good parent. Most likely they will just hang out and act like best friends.

Answer 10

kids are gonna do stuff like that at that age anyway, I kknow I did and you probably did tell your momshe dont know what she is talking about.

by the time they are 6 or 7 they will think boys are icky

Answer 11

um they prob wont even know later its cute but kinda funny i wouldnt call it a boyfriend but you can let her be with him haha

Answer 12

That's a good question.  I don't think there is any harm in it for a 4-year old.  It's just a cute thing.  I'm sure it'll fade out anyway.  Now when she's 13, that's a different story!

Answer 13

no don't condone that type of behavior, but there isn't much you can do to prevent it so I say don't worry about it but don't encourage it.....and you'd be surprised how much they know so don't assume the only thing they will do is kiss.

Answer 14

Are you kidding. She is 4. You need to tell her that he is her friend and little girls don't have boy friends or kiss because they might get sick....

Answer 15

I think its a bad idea to.. you need to tell her he is just her friend and no boyfriends until she is a little older... kissing is not good for four year olds....:( I use to work in daycare in there was this 4 year that went under the table and pulled down another lil girl pants in licked her private spot...some kids are just 2 advane I would second think that idea about boyfriends,

Answer 16

Let her, it's fine, you can't control her all of her life for one

Another thing is, if she's going to do something, she's going to do it with or without your permission. It's better if she can come to you and talk to you about it, other then hide it from you and keep secrets

Answer 17

i have a little sister like that and i think its completely normal. i mean its not like she is 16 running the roads she is only four its just a little girl thing no biggie!!!

its just a stage thats it

Answer 18

There's no harm at all. They hear the word boyfriend or girlfriend and automatically assume they have one. Its just a cute little thing kids do.. and most little kids are even scared to kiss another, because they have cooottiieesss remember? Dont worry about little things like this, its cute. =)

Answer 19

My daughter is four and found a guy friend at her preschool. They were so cute holding hands. I thought, for us, that I should just go along with it. I feel like if I am open with her about it she will learn to be open with me about it. I say let them be bf and gf. They are four, what can it hurt. Also, were you open with your mom about what you were doing when you were dating? Is her not being supportive this a repeat of the type of relationship you had with her? And if so, do you want to repeat that pattern with your daughter? Just some food for thought

Answer 20

Are you nuts?  what do you mean they can do nothing but 'just kiss'?  Hello?  What are you going to say when she is 10 or 14?  Explain to your daughter that they are friends - but at the age of 4 your daughter should not be kissing little boys!  What kind of example are you setting for the future?

Answer 21

she is way to young to have a boyfriend.  just tell her the he is her "friend".  tell her boyfriends are for when she gets older

my boyfriend said our daughter cant date until he's dead :)

Answer 22

There is no harm in role play at this time. In fact, you can use it to teach her how to set boundaries and be a lovely lady.

Answer 23

Lol, go for it. She's four, it's not like she knows anything about it yet. My little cousin had a girlfriend and he doesn't even know what s*x is or making out LOL!

Answer 24

As long as you are ok with it and so are his parents I don't see why not. When we were kids (I am 21 now) we had boyfriends in PreK and K. It will be cute and like you said all they can do is kiss if they even do that.

Answer 25

Lol sure go ahead, they're only four and they probably will just act like normal friends.

Answer 26

AWWWWWW .....how sweet. Of course, this is going to lead to some great social interaction between them. This will definately benefit them in the future. I think your daughter having a boy that is a friend coming over to watch elmo with and maybe share some ice cream or soda pop is great. Your mom is maybe being a little over protective???  

Tell grandma its ok , everyone needs a freind.

Answer 27

yeah... there's no harm! i think it's cute that 4 year olds are boyfriend and girlfriend! =) besides, they're gonna think they're the same normal best friends!

Answer 28

ya by the time hes 6 he will think she has coodes so ya

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Answer 29

well, your daughter is really young, so she isnt at the age to have a boyfriend. just try to let them be friends, but definatly dont let them call each other boyfriend and girlfriend. they are little, and dont truly know what it means. just go with the flow on this one.

Answer 30

I think she needs a boyfriend ASAP!  In fact she is a bit behind!  She should of had a boyfriend at least a year ago!  

I have an 8 year old and he has girlfriends all the time and has since he was 3 years old...next time he's in between girlfriends (it should only be about a week) I will let you know and we can hook our kids up!

Answer 31

does ur daughter even no wut a boyfriend is? I sugest them just being friends. At such a young age, relationships like that shouldn't even be mentioned.