Should mothers encourage their sons to m********e?

Answer 1

 In answer to your question, YES! Definetly. If you have a close male friend or relative, ask them to instruct the lad in the fine art of masterbation.Only another man wouldbe able to correctly instruct another male in the art.

Answer 2

Doris:
I don't think so. I never even thought of it. However I think we all do it and it comes naturally. I saw my almost 12 year old doing it.
I was passing by his room and from the door only the lower part of his bed is visible so he couldn't see me looking in. IT was a shock at first seeing him playing with himself. He went from stroking it to stopping for a few seconds and not touching it. Maybe that's his technique? I felt odd looking so I left. I really feel if he's sexually tense now its best to relieve himself.

Answer 3

 I dont think encouraging him to m********e is entirely healthy, but talking to him about sexuality and that its ok to m********e, is healthy and a part of life. 

Answer 4

I think it is great to have a mother that would encourage her son to m********e. I wouldn't say my mom encourages me but she has let me know that it is perfectly alright for me to do it. If she happens to see me it is no big deal to either of us. When I first started I was so afraid of getting caught I couldn't enjoy doing it they way I do now.

Answer 5

yes

Answer 6

It seems odd that a mother should encourage a son to m********e. It's almost in a way of encouraging him to engage in potentially addictive habit. Not quite like encouraging him to smoke cigarettes or take up an alcohol habit, but addictive nonetheless.

When I was a young teen, my mother tacitly encouraged me to m********e. For whatever ever reasons she never divulged to me, she provided me with regular issues of softcore girlie magazines (this was back in the 70s when there was no Internet p**n) in what seemed clear to me was an attempt to get me to m********e. She never came right and directly told me why she did this, but it seemed pretty clear that providing me with unsolicited copies of pornography, along with bottles of baby lotion, placed in my bedroom while I was out, was her way of inducing me into masturbating. Of course, with all that had been provided for me, I did m********e, not that I needed any encouragement; at my age at that time, I was going to m********e with or without any prodding by her.

I never figured out why she had this (unproven) desire for her to have me m********e. Perhaps she felt bad for me as I wasn't exactly popular with girls and didn't have a girlfriend during this time frame and who knows, maybe she wanted to reassure herself that I was straight (which I am very much so). Maybe she was actually trying to get me to go out and meet a girl. Whatever the reasons, I found her providing me with pornography to be quite an addictive habit. Masturbating removed any desire I had to go out and interact with girls, and it continued to be like this for a couple of years until I went off to college. In a sense, I was encouraged to m********e to the point of near addiction...I felt I didn't need any other form of sexual release. To this day, I still have the desire to m********e to pornography, though I do control the urge.

All worked out for me in the end. I did marry and have been in a standard marriage for years in which all forms of sexual releases are explored, including occasionally masturbating with my spouse. But when I look back at that early time of my life, I can see that being encouraged to m********e could potentially lead to one's addiction to it. Masturbation is not "bad" or an act to be ashamed of by any means; it's simply another form of sexual release. But for a mother to encourage it? It's my personal experience with that which makes me say any mother who wants to do that should not. Masturbation is just one of those self-discovery mechanisms that we all figure out on our own. I see no reason to encourage it...it will happen on its own due time.

Answer 7

I see noreason not to, if a family is open about things. It is a benefit for the boy and for the parents, as it reduces tension and pressures, and is very calming for him.It should be a regular enjoyed way. Same for girls.

Answer 8

no thats just embarrising im a 14 year old boy and u learn in s*x ed or...

1.watching p**n and copying
2.rubing comstantly until a orgasam occurs


let them find out about it its to arkward

Answer 9

I think you need to see a shrink you idiot-this comes naturally and thers is no deed to trerach this-your obviously weird and sick.

Answer 10

That would depend on several things.

That particular families religious beliefs.
The families present and past openess in conversation.  How comfortable everyone is with such talk.
Whether or not a verbal direction is all that is given, eg. not an offer to 'lend a hand'.
If the child's privacy was respected and enforced.
The parent's own motives for considering this path in the first place.


If it goes against the families religious beliefs, than expecting a parent to encourage such an act would be detrimental to their state of mind.  Regardless whether or not such an activity had been proven scientifically and medically to be 'in the best interest of the child'.

If the family is not comfortable discussing such things, then even bringing the topic up can cause great discomfort for both the parent and child.  If not handled well, the end result could cause more damage than good.

Assuming such conversation is considered okay with the family as a whole, a verbal encouragement needs only to be subtle and rare.  Once a child understands that such activity is acceptable and not grounds for punishment, then the child will usually be more than willing to enjoy themselves as they see fit.  The occasional off hand remark about masturbation in general would serve to also reinforce the topic as a safe conversation.

Masturbation should remain a private activity for the child in question.  Privacy should be respected and enforced, meaning masturbation in front of others should not be acceptable.  In nudist families, nudity obviousy is acceptable around others, erections also are often considered to be a natural side effect of being a pubescent male and are often accepted as normal.  If however the erection is there in a more flaunting manner or they begin masturbating or stimulating themselves openly then such behaviour should be admonished and reaffirm it's need to remain private.

The parent's motives are also highly important.  If the parent wishes the child to m********e because they are obtaining pleasure or thrill from being aware of what the child is doing, this is wrong.
If the parent is feeling sexual feelings towards the child, eg with a nudist family whose son openly has a natural erection, then this is more of an issue the parent should seek professional guidance for.  Encouraging the son to m********e in hopes his lack of erection subdues the parent's sexual interest is not curing the parent's problem, merely avoiding it.
If the parent believes that masturbation is a normal healthy activity which does not hinder the child physically or emotionally if partaken in correctly and in moderation, then it should be fine so long as they approach the topic with care and in a positive manner.

If the parent does not believe that masturbation is something for the child to be worked out on their own, this also is a controversial issue in itself.  Personally, I believe masturbation, if acceptable to one's family at all, should be at least discussed from the point of view of medical safety.  There are indeed certain methods of masturbation which should be discouraged.  Although they do still provide the user sexual gratification, there are some side effects which can have long lasting repercussions, for example the condition 'phimosis' or Traumatic Masturbatory Syndrome (TMS).

Human beings, being biological creatures, are often not the same.  What affects one person a certain way, will not affect another the same way.  So it is with medical conditions.  Though not always caused from masturbating in a particular way, it can increase the chances of it occurring.