Should I go back with my ex boyfriend?

Question

I broke up with my boyfriend few months ago because his mom did not approve of our relationship as I am divorced and he is still a bachelor. However, we are still keeping in touch through chatting just as friends. Recently he told me that his mom died. Apparently before his mom died, she showed him a picture of a girl whom she wanted him to meet. So far my ex only spoke to this girl twice and obviously he does not know what she's like since they never met bu soon he will go to his hometown to meet this girl and see what happens. Now he says that if he doesn't like the girl, he would like to come back to me as now there's nobody who would get in the way of our relationship. In one hand I'm considering getting back together with him but on the other hand I feel like I'm only a substitute.

Should I go back with my ex boyfriend? I need ur opinion n advice.

Answer 1

If he is saying that : He would like to come back to you--> then it has 2 meanings:-

1. He will compare you with that girl first and then if he will find you as a better option then he will come back to you. That means he doesn't

love you that is why he is going to meet that girl.

2.May be his mother before dying has told her as her wish that his son should meet that girl and just for the sake of his mother ( you know fulfilling the wish of loved once ) he is going to that girl and after completing this formality he will come back to you as you are the one whom he loves a lot.

If this is the first case then i will suggest you --> Leave Him.

But,if this is the second option then you must go for it.

Now the thing is --> how will you know that if this is the first case or the second one? Either you should directly ask him that why he is going to meet that girl ( or you should ask him whether he loves you or not) , or you should wait untill he meets that girl and come to you and wait for his explaination that why he came back to you.

I think you must give him a chance and then decide what to do.

All the best!!!!

Answer 2

On the one hand you are a plan b. On the other hand he's honoring his dead mothers last wish. It's hard to say how you should react.  

Answer 3

If you guys want to be with each other, I don't know why you allowed other people to break you guys up. Go back with him.  

Answer 4

How old are you two? It make a difference. Unfortunately a person's mother can be very forceful, persuasive, and intimidating when it comes to dating someone they don't approve of. It makes the relationship very difficult. So I would give him some slack on that. The fact that she has passed now opens a door for him to see you without any outside influence. However, he chooses not to come back to you immediately, but wants to go and meet someone else and if and only if she is not better than you, he will come back and you can be the consolation prize. Do you really need to ask this question?

Answer 5

this is not school and you're not a teacher... go back to him.  as a matter of fact, try and go with him to his hometown and help him visit his past.  do something now before it's to late to do anything with him.  Moms (parents) are so dumb and they always interfere in ways they shouldn't.

Answer 6

Are you seious???????? Why on earth would you want to get back together with this guy? He is making it seem like youre not good enough for him. But yet, he wants to meet this girl who he doesnt even know?? Sounds like you need to dump him before he breaks your heart again. First he listens to mommy about you when she was alive, now hes listening to his mommy about you while shes dead. He needs serious help.

Answer 7

No all he wants to do is compare you to her..if he likes her then you're out of the picture. Just move on!  

Answer 8

No don't go back to him..he had his chance with you , now he wants to see if this other girl is ok and if she is not then he will get back with you...and if he does like her than he dumps you again !! don't waste anymore time on this ex bf...I would be very insulted if any man treated me like this..keep you pride, dignity and self respect.

Answer 9

honey, he's up to no good... you need not to be a substitute. you deserve someone better than him. someone whom you'll be the number one of the list not just number 2 because the guy would meet up with someone. anyway i made a poem and i hope this would cheer you up...

Your Perfect Soulmate Still Exist!

You may not believe me

though, you don't have to

Just read this one

and let this message grab your time

even just for a while

You will date few frogs

and that's for sure

there's no way to avoid such

The key of knowing your "the one"

is ACCEPTANCE

for no one is perfect

though the title seems the way it should be

Prince is just there building a castle

and sooner or later he'll ask you to be his queen

And lastly,

you just don't have to wait

because surely you do not want to spend the rest

of your life knowing your Mr. Right is married to someone else

when he could have been yours...

Just don't wait

bring all the good things out of you into the open

but never try to fit to someone's ideals