My 14 year old daughter wants to sleep over her boyfriend's house?

Question

Would you allow this? They've been dating for 8 months. He's 14 as well. He invited her to sleep over tonight with two of his other friends (who are boys). I'm not sure I'm okay with that. She keeps telling me "Mom, it's fine, we all know each other, it's not like we're strangers. We won't do anything bad." I trust my daughter, but she's only 14. I told her "Honey, you're a little young to be sleeping over this boy's house." She locked herself in her room and has been in there for 6 hours. Am I just being over protective? What would you do if your 14 year old daughter wanted to sleep over her boyfriend's house? I don't want her to be mad at me, my biggest goal has always been to have a close relationship with my children.

Answer 1

i wouldnt let her!!!!

Answer 2

NO. The longer she sulks in her room, the longer she has time to think and maybe she will understand that ur doing what ur doing for her own good. You just care about her! thats not a crime, letting her go would be.

Answer 3

im fifteen, and i know that if i really wanted to do something 'bad' then i'd do it anyway, so just trust her.

i'm pretty sure she's not stupid.

Answer 4

Unless you want her to have s*x with him, and put herself in a position to be pressured by two other boys.....

I would say NO.

I wouldn't even let my daughter be dating at 14, honestly.

Answer 5

if you trust her then let her spend the night.

Answer 6

NO. she is way too young.

Answer 7

well, if she isn't going to go, this is what you can do.

ask if she would like it if the boyfriend could spend the night at your house.

make them a pallet on the floor, girl sleeps on the couch, boy sleeps on the floor.

and tell them this is how they should be when you check on the unexpectedly.

that is if you will allow it, i am not saying do it.

just a suggestion.

Answer 8

wow. No let her sulk. Your right she is way to young.

Answer 9

No

Answer 10

What is wrong with you? No! You are your child's parent first and their friend second or third.  Don't let your wants (a close relationship with your daughter) get in the way of instilling values and morals into your daughter. Age 14 is way to young for a coed sleepover. In my opinion it should never be allowed until they are adults and out of your house.  Good luck.

Answer 11

tell her all the bad things about being a pregnant teen and tell her the bad things about horney boyfriends, then see if she still wants to go

Answer 12

Absolutely not, unless you want to be a grandmother anytime soon. Your best bet is to be her mother not her friend. She will appreciate it so much more when she is all grown as much as she hates the structure and rules now.

Answer 13

No your not being over-protective!

Answer 14

you are being protective and its good.

she will get over it.

she wants to use your niceness as a mother to get this sleepover.

be firm and say no.

its the better choice

Answer 15

That would be a big no.  Boundaries are a part of life, and being mad at your parents is a part of life as well.  Don't be one of those..I don't want my kid to be mad at me so they can do whatever they want and become brats.  Too many people try to be friends with their children, instead of being a parent.

Answer 16

you should do what you want after all you are the parents and she's the child.

Answer 17

NO WAY. I'm a 16 year old and even I am telling you DONT LET HER!

Answer 18

Um say No!

Because you might trust your daughter but you can NEVER trust the boy, so your daughter saying thats its fine... but what if the boys get horny and try to do something on her...

And as far as her locking herself in her room, 14 year old shouldnt HAVE LOCKS ON THEIR ROOM DOOR!

Answer 19

Don't let her go. Because, she's going to a sleepover where there are 3 boys and not even one girl. You don't know what might happen there, even if you trust your daughter. So this is how it would go if she went, she'll just go without knowing much, and those 3 boys would pressure here into activities she doesn't want. She's too young for that. She should respect your desicion as you are doing whats best for her.

Answer 20

i know that you want to have a close relationship with your daughter but you also have to remember that you are the parent. if it was me i would not let it happen, but you should trust your gut instinct.

Answer 21

Noooooooooooooo way.  Not appropriate.  Asking for trouble.

You are the mom.  She is going to be mad at you.  You will still be close because she will respect you.  She won't look back someday when she's a parent and say "what was my mom thinking?!"    

Please.... use some common sense here.  You already know what the right answer is, you are just very close to letting your daughter manipulate you into getting what she wants.

Answer 22

I have a 14yr old boy and i would talk with the parents first and find out how they feel about it and make sure an adult was going to be home...and if you do trust your daughter evrything should be just fine ; -)

Answer 23

My mom didn't even let me sleep at a boyfriends house when I was 16...But I ended up losing my virginity at 15....Sleeping over a boys house may risk her losing her virginity earlier...

Maybe you suggest that he come over for a while and you drive him home at night so they can spend the day together?

When and IF it comes to that point with my daughter I will say NO, no questions asked...No and that's it....

Answer 24

They are obviously going to be having s*x. Don't worry your doing the right thing!  Do not let her go!  If she gets mad suggest him coming over to your house to spend the night. (none of his friends)  Do not spy on them but make sure they do not do anything you don't want them to do.  Make cookies, and deliever them.  And make sure the music or tv is not on too loud. (covering s*x noises)

Answer 25

let her go and give her a condom

Answer 26

let her be mad and stay in her room at least you know what she's doing for the most part.  you're to be her mother not her friend.  I would never let my daughter stay overnight at a boy's house even if they had been dating for years, she was 17 and his parents were my friends.  In my opinion there are no situations where that is appropriate.

Answer 27

no  no   no

Answer 28

I wouldn't let her, personally. You're doing the right thing by protecting her. My parents didn't let my boyfriend stay over until I was 18.

Answer 29

Dont let her until she's older, becasue my parents let that c**p go, only my now ex boyfriend stayed over my and lets just say i really wish they would have told me sorry there is no way in h**l. She'll appriciate it when she's older

Answer 30

I'm 14 and I think you should let her but tell her you aint looking after it. And by not letting her she will want to do it all the more and she will probably just get laid just to spite you....you might say if it was your daughter and your only 14 yourself but give us teenagers some credit we aint all stupid so stop tarring us all with the same brush coz it aint true

Answer 31

do u trust her?

do u trust her bf?

if so then yes but i would call his parents and talk to them and have her call u every now and then to checkup