Kicking someone out of my house?

Question

My mother lives with me and the house is in my name. The problem is my sister is 29 years old and lives in the house, she has lived there all her life. She has not worked since July 2007.She has never paid rent.She pays for nothing. Her unemployment money is spent on drugs.She has never done yard work,house work, laundry. She does nothing but lays on the sofa and watches t.v. and eats all night long. My mother has bought her 3 cars and she ruins them all. She let her boyfriend ruin one of them. Some drug dealer destroyed one. She smokes pot constantly. She leaves sometimes and smokes meth. She won't shower, or brush her teeth.She has very bad habits,she is crude.Why should I have to support her? I have worked all my life. She has had about 30 jobs in 10 years. She is always late for her jobs.Can I kick her to the curb? How do I get rid of her? I am having a nervous breakdown, I have to take Prozac because of her. Help.

Answer 1

I would say that you should give her a date and keep to it.  Perhaps you may need to involve law enforcement if she is not out be the appointed date.  You can give her a list of resources that she can access to help her get going.   I would recommend the book Boundaries by Henry Cloud....this can give you some principles to help in this dilemma.  It will probably get ugly, but it is best for you, her, and your mother to set clear boundaries and follow through with consequences.  

Answer 2

hello, MY FRIEND, I have the same problem in away. Let me tell you mine, first. My brother is 29 years old and still lives with my mom. He just got out of jail and probation for being at the wrong place at the wrong time. He's been in rehab for being a drunk. Served his time, went back home and he is still a drunk, won't work,bath, clean house, help mom with the bills and etc. So yeah I can relate to you. Now to answer your question. You can get her help, she'll hate you forever,but talk to the mental health organizations in your town or the rehabs. They should give you some kind of help. If not, Show her the real love and kick her out.The best love is the cold-shoulder.

Answer 3

I think you should definately do something about it and for her own good as well as yours and even though she is your sister you shouldn't be responsible for supporting her and her habits. My advice to you is to tell her the situation and agree on a one year or 6 month plan with her to get rid of the drugs and bad lifestyle than find her a small appartment and a job if you can and help her getting herself set up in there so she wont just be homeless, but than you really shouldn't have to do anything but be her big brother/sister. If she wont even agree to try to straighten her life out, than all there is left for you to do is kick her out on the street. Also, you just need to realize what a great person you are for keeping her around that long already, but soon enough she has to grow up and become an aduly, you really shouldn't have to do anything for her, in reality you could kick her out of the house tommorow with only the coat on her back and she should realize what a great thing that you are doing for her which oviously she doesn't as she is abusing not only the drugs, but your loving heart. bless your soul,

              Good Luck,

                           Karlie