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Is married life harder than people let on?

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i am newly married, and i've found it is harder (but vary good and i'm glad i did it) than people let on. does anyone find this to be true?

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Yes!!! I have never had to work so hard in my life. It makes me appreciate more what my mum did when i was living at home. And congratualtions!!!
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welcome to life and your living the reality
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Rock climbing is hard. Is it harder than that?
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Congrats. You two have much to learn about one another. Who likes this, who doesn't do that, etc. That takes a few years. Then you will settle into your seats just fine.

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marriage is very challenging for both parties because you now have rules and expectations that was not there before. I thought it would be easy and everything would be peaches and cream until i got home from the honeymoon and i realized i really love this girl and it was better but then you grow together and things become routine and sometimes you just want something different whether it be a partner,hobby,place to stay,lifestyle,etc...then it become impossible because you have just promised your mate that you will be there no matter what but at the time you didnt realize growing up is like a tree. Every year you get a new branch which is a ideal or want,and you want to explore it but you cant because you're married. I tell my friends wait,wait and wait. Not until you're 30 but at least until you know for sure that life will not throw anything at you that will challenge your will power so much that it cause you to question your whole marriage.
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Early marriage can be difficult. You are getting used to sharing every aspect of your life with another person.

You get used to it, and its a wonderful feeling. =)
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as long as you communicate and trust each other , it shouldnt be difficult, any relationship takes effort.
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i takes work. dont sit on your *** and wait for someone to decide everything or for things to just happen. if theres a problem do your part to work it out. and it is no easier or harder than you make it. its a piece of paper.
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It's only 'hard' if you do not have and can't be bothered to learn

GOOD RELATIONSHIP SKILLS........google it and learn how to have easy, joyous, fun together as very BEST FRIENDS and not struggling adversaries.
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no not at all. its a joy to be with my husband and daughter. i never understood that first year is hard thing the first year is like dream :)
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Yes, and we were together 12 yrs before marriage. I did not think that things would be so different. But marriage has been more work than I could have imagined. Every married couple that has made it 10 yrs plus has told us that if you can make it past the 3 yr mark, things will get easier. I guess when they say, you need to have more than attraction to make love work, they forgot to include how much work...I just hope I can say it was all worth it. Congratulations!
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yes it is it takes hard work,sacrifice and commitment everyday! it is hard work to have a good marriage but you have to work hard in life for everything you want and it includes this as well.
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d**n right it is hard.  If it was easy there wouldnt be a 40 percent divorce rate.

Is it worth it?  h**l Ya.

The good times are easy and the bad times are hard as h**l.

Learn to fight fair, that really makes it so much easier, dont bring up the past, and I dont really care what it is, leave it there and forget about it, bringing up the past and fighting about it all over again along with the topic at hand can sometimes damage your relationship, sometimes fixable but unfortunately sometimes you crack your marriage.  If it isnt fixed quickly it is these little things that just get worse and worse and eventually end it.

Then you have a child and your life will never be the same again.

Grow together and stay together.

Good Luck
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Yes I've just gotten married and it is tuffer than living together
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yea been married 12 years and only 28 years old its tuff
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i know i went into it with rose colored glasses and found out that it isn't as easy as i thought. wish i would have waited at least until i finished college.
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Yes.

A good marriage means you consider the other person before yourself (I don't mean in a "doormat" way).

It's about growing up and having a more "eternal" perspective.

In good marriages you resolve your differences and don't just move on to the next person.

You marry the person with whatever personal baggage, family history, personal quirks, etc. they might have.

If God is the Head of the home, marriage truly IS "made in heaven."
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Yah..it pretty much sucks. The marrieds will lie about it though..they have to.

They're in it "till death" don't you know.
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It is harder.If i knew then what i know now,i would have never married.Except for my kids.They are my world.But in general,i would have gotten a very high education,make good money.Date good looking men.Dine and wine in a fancy restaurants and of coarse travel,see the world.When i get tired of all that,i'd go the sperm Bank and have just one baby and raise on my own.If i knew what i know now.
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