Date bailed out. Can I bill her for gas?

Question

Just as the title says. We even talked five minutes out from the meeting site, and said she was on her way over. 30 minutes later I'm still waiting, and then I get the call.

She tells me that I'm going to be mad at her, but she couldn't get out of the house because her phone was ringing off the hook and she was trying to take care of some legal things before the storm hit tomorrow. (Houston) She also said she was probably going to have to make a run to the North side of town tonight, and finished it off with, "I'm sorry I'm doing this to you because I know your such a nice guy."

I just told her to take care of whatever she had to take care of, and when she asked if we could meet up again, I cut the conversation short and told her bye.

It's not that I'm a nice guy. I just expect a fair deal.

She literally lived two blocks away and couldn't even grace me with her presence after I drove 30 minutes to her side of town and called twice during the day to confirm that we were still hanging out after giving her ample opportunity to bail. I was trying to avoid exactly what wound up transpiring and I can't have her walking away from the event thinking that she can just do that whenever and to whomever.

So can I bill her for gas or what? I don't actually expect for her to pay me back, but it would make a statement more then anything.

Answer 1

OK guy.. Heres the thing... ANY WOMAN that says you are a NICE guy... Or a SWEET guy... Or that they had a NICE time on a first date.. Yea, Their not interested in more than a friendship.

Answer 2

I think she would just laugh at you and throw it away. Stop thinking about it and move forward. There is more fish in the sea.

Answer 3

To answer your question, yes, you can bill her for gas.  Of course, she is not legally obligated to pay your bill.

Unfortunately, you attempted to date a real inconsiderate jerk!  Keep that in mind when she calls you and begs for another date!  Or better yet, have her pick you up and wait for you to get ready, citing her lack of consideration as the reason you didn't bother getting showered until she actually showed!

Answer 4

Dude!

You can bill her for whatever you want... but what point are you trying to make to her?  

Either she's telling the truth, and she's a nice person who already feels bad and you're going to ruin any future shot - or she's a user and not feeling bad at all and your point will be lost on her.

If she really is a user, be grateful that all it cost you was some gas to find out... and find someone better.

Answer 5

just dont talk to her again, sheesh

Answer 6

Wow dude are you bitter or what?  Get over it and move on and NO you cannot send her a bill for your gas, if I got that I'd laugh, rip it up and praise the Lord that I stood your stupid A$$ up.

Obsess much?

btw, this is renting and real estate try "relationships" maybe they will join your pity party for one.  Do you also expect your dates to pay for their 1/2 too?  The only statement you'll be making is "Hey I'm a loser with serious issues aren't you glad you didn't meet me?"

Answer 7

I think sending her a bill would be a bit cold.  I think you should call her & casually mention the inconvenience of your time & money. If she is just the inconsiderate type, you should probably just stay away from her in the future & consider the gas the cost of a life lesson.

Answer 8

If you are a prostitute and receive payment for dates then this sounds like a fair charge.  

But, if this were a normal date then you are pretty weird to be expecting to be compensated for gas.

I bet you do not have many second dates.

Not being interested in you does not mean that she is "thinking that she can just do that whenever and to whomever. "

This sounds to me like she was trying to tell you that she is not interested and you were not getting the hint.

The fact that you think she should pay for your gas indicates you have some serious social issues, maybe you can get counseling on how to interact better with people.

Answer 9

Nah, dont bill her for gas. Unless you dont mind her telling every single female friend she has that you did that. I think she totally blew you off though. Yes, im sure she had things to take care of, but making someone wait for no reason is not cool. So just forget about her and the whole situation. Chalk it up as a bad experience.

Answer 10

You have got to be kidding!  

Well, at least you'd kill any more comments from her about your being a nice guy.