Am i right or are my parents right???

Question

i am 15 years old. my parents are driving me crazy. i was home yesterday and they left and told me to water the flowers and put a load of laundry in. so i said ok. After they left i went to hang out with friends. i got back home and watered the flowers and put in my load of laundry. when they got home, they told me i am grounded tommorow from friends and video games for not doing it right when they left and doing it later after i hung out with friends. they never told me to do it right when they left. i am getting really stressed because things like this happen all the time. Will someone please give me their opinion on this?? Thanks.

Answer 1

If this happens all the time then you should be prepared that this is what your parents expect.  If this happens all the time, then why do you not perform the chores when they ask you?

I would suggest the next time you are given an assignment you listen, do it and THEN go see your friends.  If you have to (your parents might like this), call them when your chores are done and say, 'Just to let you know I put the load in the laundry and watered the flowers.  If it's cool with you I'm gonna head to Joe's for a bit.'  This way you are letting them know that you took their chores to heart and didn't dawdle.  You are also seeking their approval and permission before heading out on your own.

It's good you do what they ask, but next time just humor them and bow in front of them, so to speak.  Good luck!

Answer 2

Maybe you should ask more questions of your parents when they give you chores to do, so that you can be more clear on what their expectations are of you.  It sounds like you aren't communicating well as is.

Answer 3

i wont say ur parents r right but u know how adults r they want u to take of what u were told to do first and then enjoy ur free time after. what if somthing stopped u from coming home to do these things and they wound up not getting done then there is another problem. just have to take of business first then ur pleasure comes after thats the way of the real world hate to tell ya

Answer 4

next time just do it when they ask instead of later.  it may sound unimportant to do it that way but atleast then u wont get in trouble.

Answer 5

They are being unreasonable. As you say, they told to to do those things but they did not tell you when to do them. Tell them that if they are going to be punishing you regardless of whether you do or not what they say, next time you will do nothing. Same punishment either way. Then they may see how unreasonable they have been in this cace.

Answer 6

as a rule of thumb i always say the parent is right in this case they are I'm sure that your parents have certain requirements of you and they want to know that you know how to prioritize its always work than play in the real life and that's all they need you to know it should be something that is standard in your house like clean your room before you go out to play eventually it should be know with out having to be specified

Answer 7

Well, I think they expected you to take care of the things they asked you to do right away, and when you didn't, they were right to ground you.

I mean it is common sense that if your parents ask you to do something, you always do it first, and then do what you want after.

Answer 8

From now on ASSUME when they tell you to do something, they mean for it to  be done ASAP!