Advice for living a happy married life?

Question

I have yet to marry, but someday I hope it will happen for me. In the meantime, I am working to improve myself and getting myself "relationship ready".

I'd like to get married for the long haul. I believe I can do it. And, I hope to make my future wife happy in all ways that I can. I'd also like to have kids someday too.

Do you have any advice for me to make this happen? Things that I should and shouldn't do, pitfalls to avoid, and other helpful tips?

Thank you kindly.

Answer 1

That is one of the smartest questions yet, well done. If you keep in touch with the Lord, all the makings are right there in the Bible. You can get yourself and inexpensive book called Nave's Topical Bible. If you look up the topic of marriage, you'll find all the scripture for marriage. I would recommend that you get yourself a King James Version Bible to look up scripture also. You may even want to talk to post WWII folks, they were brought up in a time when marriage had meaning, they were in for the long haul good or bad they stuck it out. The only advice I can give to you is love covers a multitude of sins, love her with all your heart and be faithful always. Find yourself a good Godly Woman and you'll be fine....Good Luck    

Answer 2

You're wasting your time. If you treat them well, they will not appreciate it and will walk all over you. If you are an *sshole, they love you for a while but talk to their friends and you'll end up a "jerk".  Answer: Prostitution is LEGAL in Nevada any time you should feel "romantic" and it's cheaper, easier and when you're done, YOUR DONE. Pay up and walk out!!!

Answer 3

know the person you want to marry for a long time.  this gives you both time to go through some ups and downs in your relationship and to see how each other handles these situations.  if you handle them differently then you can either work on compromising or get out quickly.

put as much effort into your marriage as you do planning your wedding,  most young women put so much energy into planning the 'big event' that they neglect the relationship.  and the relationship is 'the big event'.

laugh a lot.  don't take yourelves too seriously.

treat each other as you would a friend.  a lot of times we treat our spouse badly because we know they'll take it.  but it hurts and sometimes it causes damage that can't be repaired.

you have 1 mouth and 2 ears,  so speak less and listen twice as much.

let the day you get married be the day you love your mate the least.  meaning let the love grow daily, not decrease.

Answer 4

Most important thing, the simplest, and yet the one thing that destroys most marriages due to the lack of it: COMMUNICATION. Anything can be resolved if you only communicate your feelings at the time, don't let it fester and bring it out down the road, clear the air right away. You can't go wrong if you retain communication.

Answer 5

Make sure no matter what life throws at you, you put your wife and your marriage first!!!!!  Also MAKE SURE you continue to date your wife no matter what.  THAT means a night out just the two of you, or with some friends at least once a week to do something FUN.....(Do not get married and stay at home all the time with nothing else in your lives).  Life Sucks but you have to make sure that your marriage is yes loving, supportive etc etc but most of all keep it FUN.

Answer 6

Dont.  

Answer 7

i took a class in college. one thing that stuck out was Trust, Passion, and communication... with out one of them it's most likely doomed... even with them they are hard.

they all can be worked on too but you should have 100% for your partner... in each..

well i hope my advice helps you.. i'm not married but will be june 5th 2010..

enjoy the engagement :)

Answer 8

Admit your human up front lol, you would be surprised at how often this will help you out. Never go to bed angry. No matter how mad you get at each other promise up front not to leave just give each other some cooling off time. Read John Gray's books Mars and Venus  series it does help to make sense how men and women differ. Good Luck and when you do decide to get married may it last a lifetime.

Answer 9

Let your wife to be know that you are for the long haul and get the same commitment from her. Know that you are in charge and get the trust of the wife by appearing a strong person she can depend on. Have a good job. Security is a must. Make her married life better than the past single life money-wise. Do not disappoint her by being way different from the person you appear to be before you got married. Treat her with respect so you can have the same. You do not have to be rich but, act such that your wife can always feel pride of you. Once she realizes that you are a shoulder that she can lean on, you have a wife for life and you do not have to worry about cheating. I hope I was of help.  

Answer 10

Happy wife, happy life. This is a Christian man's perception of staying married happily. And others with common sense. If two people are overly busy, trying to make each other happy, there is no room for unhappiness in the relationship...nor is there any room for a 3rd person to enter the unit. Good luck.