WHY should MEN feel bad about being PLAYERS?

Question

Why should we? After all, most women don't seem to care about men's sexual needs.

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Women are so indifferent to the needs and desires of MEN, yet US men are supposed to give a d**n or dime about the needs of WOMEN?

Is this YET MORE hypocrisy?

(fact: Mike T has used the word "hypocrisy" on this forum more than any other word)

Answer 1

Players should not feel bad if they are honest.  If they lie they should feel bad.  The rest of your post was a rant, so I ignored it.

Answer 2

As Kendrick said, men who can ACTUALLY get laid don't need to lie, or play games.

Men who feel the need to do that feel somehow inadequate, or are doing it for other reasons (to "get back" at women, for instance).

MOST women can sniff out a "player" pretty well. (Seriously, you guys aren't that hard to spot for all that you think you're so suave.) I doubt very seriously that a player actually gets laid any more than a moderately attractive guy who plays nice. Players tell THEMSELVES far more lies than they ever tell the opposite s*x.

Truth.

EDIT-"Sources?" What sort of sources do you think there would be? What peer-reviewed journal do you think one would find this in?

These are MY observations of people who would self-describe as "players." Why are you so threatened by my statements?

Answer 3

It's not that difficult to get laid.. why be a player? There really isn't a need to lie or manipulate anyone.

Answer 4

why the h**l are YOU so against women anyway? your attitude's left to be desired. most of  us can't go and plainly have s*x  with everyone we find attractive,unlike you guys do a lot with so much ease.we can't because we actually have feelings and we're aware of those.to most of us,s*x goes hand in hand with love.NOT separately.we're indifferent? we're trying to figure you out,moron! so that we could all come to an understanding! how can you say we're indifferent to men's needs? how dare you? what kinds of women have you met? how about you guys make you fu^%#$' mind up and decide what you want from us.oh,and stop freakin' playing hard and cold wandering with other women making yourself feel better as a male.the players are like the whores.the whores and the palyers are exceptions.they don't deserve to be understood and loved.because they don't give love and definitely don't try to understand others.so,stop freakin' complaining about us and try work out your OWN issues,because i'm sure they're plenty.it's NOT always the women's fault,not as you'd like to think!

you should think WHY does a woman start to act weird and do weird stuff,she won't do that unmotivated! and the fact that most of you don't know how to handle a woman is NOT our problem and we SHOULDN'T pay for it and be blamed for!

Answer 5

I Have not looked at your Extra bit! [ the http:// ]

Just for those that were wondering.

In Answer To Your Question,There is Nothing Wrong with being a Player,as long as you are not a cheat.There is a Difference, Play All You

want,But Play Fair,and Be Honest To The One You Are Playing With.

That Way No One Becomes A Loser!

Answer 6

If you feel that you need to exploit yourself and others for sexual gratification; fine do it. But where is any of it going to get you in the end anyway?

Answer 7

Hon... I have been a married woman for 31 years but honestly if some guy who had arms like yours approached me  and he was a player.... well.... this old girl would go for the gold hon....

I may be older but honestly I don't see why so many people get thier panties in a knot over this issue.  As long as the guy is single and so is the gal, it's thier own business what they do together in the privacy of a bedroom.   As long as neither one of them is presenting themselves as something they aren't... and are adults   .... well I don't really care.  s*x is s*x and good s*x is wonderful...

Answer 8

If they're being safe when they have s*x and not lying to get into bed with a woman, I don't think they should feel bad.

If they're openly telling the woman that they're only in it for the s*x and the man clearly doesn't want a relationship, he's expressed his goals at the very start. There's lots of women that I know who have one night stands and don't feel bad about it either. Why should you feel bad about doing something you enjoy (safely) if you are upfront and truthful about it?

What gets me is those sickos who have unprotected s*x with hundreds of women and spread STD's around because they don't know they have them yet. Those are the types of men (and of course women) who should feel bad about "playing" someone.

Also, players who are also cheaters and in a relationship should feel bad. After all, they've made a commitment to be with only one person and they are breaking that trust.

***Kitana has spoken

Answer 9

I care about the needs and desires of the men in my life.

Your ability to get laid or not get laid is not any concern of mine and quite honestly, NO I do not care how hard it is for a guy (or a girl) to get laid.

s*x is great. s*x is wonderful. It feels nice. Blah blah blah. But not having s*x IS NOT the end of the world. Sexual desires aren't a light switch but they are fairly easy to control for most people. If they weren't, a lot of people would lose their virginity younger and have s*x much more often if they couldn't control their desire to have s*x.

If you or any other person can't understand the QUALITY of your sexual partner is vastly more important than the QUANTITY of sexual partners, then I nor any other self-respecting person can't be bothered with it.

s*x is a desire yes but not a need. Desires do not NEED nor HAVE to be filled. If you find someone you mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically can come together with THEN AND ONLY THEN will your true inner most desires be filled. Otherwise don't expect much from someone who is willing to sleep with anyone and everyone.

You speak of horrid women who do not care about a man's desires or needs. You call them hypocrites, idiots, childish, etc. yet you are also being the hypocrite and you fail to realize that because you are so pre-occupied with your own self-importance that you don't even objectively look at the other side of the argument. You speak your opinions which you have yet to back up with any type of evidence and then you get mad at us for not taking your word on it even though at the end of every answer you type Mike T has spoken, as if you are some demigod we should bow down and worship.

So in answer to you very first question, no men shouldn't feel bad about being players, I guess, but don't go around b*itching and moaning when you get played yourself. I mean, what's fair is fair, right sweetheart?

If you really have it going for you (whether you're a man or woman) you don't need to manipulate or play games.

Answer 10

The answer is no one cares. You're obviously such a player that you have no time for writing on yahoo asnwers, making arguments out of nothing ;-)

Answer 11

If my boyfriend cheated on me I wouldn't try to make him feel good or better about himself. I'd be outraged.

I would say I don't care about what other guys do, which is half true, but I don't like the idea of them hurting other people that care about them.

When someones a player, who do you honestly think is feeling bad? The player or the players significant other?

Basically if you're not doing anything wrong, you shouldn't feel bad.

Answer 12

A player is a w***e. And those answers never said anything about women not caring about men's sexual needs. It answered what those women thought about players. I personally don't want a man who has stuck his thing into everything that wiggles it's hips in front of him. That leads to spreading disease and unplanned pregnancies. Men need to stop using that excuse that women don't care, because for centuries that is all women did...worry about mens needs. We women have needs too and it's good that we are able to express those needs now without having to be thought as as a w***e for doing so.

Answer 13

im a true player and i can say being a player can get in the way of finding your true love and i find mind and shes the only one for me but i dont wanna give up these other girls im with

Answer 14

Because it sucks. The effects of being played can be terrible for some people.

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...

Answer 15

Because most of the time it means you have no life.

Answer 16

I don't believe they should.  Everyone needs to play every once in awhile.  Bid Whist is my game.

All work and no play makes Mikey a dull boy, and susceptible to homicidal thoughts.